Saturday, April 12, 2008

Just an average (not so fun) day

She starts the day by asking if she can go to the bathroom. I have no idea why she suddenly felt the need to start asking me that every single time, but she has been doing it for months now. I have told her to stop asking and just go. I have screamed at her to stop asking and just go. Nothing works, she just keeps asking. I've tried ignoring her in hopes she'd just go. That resulted in peeing in a teacup. So I just have to put up with the frustration of hearing that question several times a day for no reason. Most of what she says has no reason. She asks "Can I watch T.V.?" every single day. She has her own T.V. and has never been restricted from watching it any time she wants (except when she's grounded, which is rare). Out of nowhere she will say "You're my grandma". It has become one of many comments she makes that make me think "No shit, Sherlock" in my head. Of course, I can't say it, no matter how frustrated I am. I'm bracing myself for the nightly "Can I take a shower now? I love shower" that makes me want to scream. I think it bothers me so much because I hate shower time so much, yet she loves it. I know she has no concept of that, but sometimes it feels like she knows it and does it on purpose. We will be looking into group home placement in 931 days. Once that happens, she will be here a couple days a week, and we will have our life back. The group home is just a few miles down the road, so I can stop in and check on her on my way home from work every day. I can keep a close eye on her and get my life back. Only 931 days to go....

1 comment:

rickismom said...

It could be that she DOES know it. My daughter (today, age 14), used making in her pants a way to get (negative) attention (AT AGE 5 and 6). So I sat down with a good therapist and worked out a behavior change on MY part, to effect changes in her. I woun't say that it was easy. It wasn't. But it worked. After that, I slowly worked up to the point that today Ricki showers on her own.